Hi. we are new at this type of lifestyle. We have been teasing each other with the idea of sharing for a long time. It has always led to very hot lovemaking. Finally about 6 months we took the plunge and we shared with a great couple that turned out to be a very nice sexual experience. Both my husband and I agreed that it had been a great fantasy fulfillment and left it at that. I don’t really know what happened but that experience opened a sexual door for me that I have not bee able to shut. I thought about it doing it again every day, was sexually aroused almost always thinking about it. My husband and I talked about it and decided to do it again, I was more excited about it and kind of pushed it more than Michael did. We joined a dating site Adult FriendFinders and it took about a month before we were comfortable enough to go ahead and have a meeting. We selected another couple and we met for dinner and drinks and ended up having sex, it was absolutely great. Michael and I talked about it all the time about how much we enjoyed it, then it happened — he asked me if I would be willing just to do it as a threesome with another man instead of another couple. He told me that has always been a big fantasy and now that we were into it he wanted to ask me but that it was strictly up to me to say yes or no. I told him to give me a couple of days to think about it. Here is the question, I really want to do it but would like to try it the first time by myself. I don’t know how to bring it up without hurting Michael’s feelings. Any advice that makes sense on how to go about this. Thanks, Tory
Wow that is a big one. I sometimes wonder if my own wife has the same feelings and so is holding back. Kind of wishful thinking on my part probably. For me the fantasy is more about being there than hearing about it. It sounds to me like that is how your husband feels as well. It sounds like your wish to be by yourself with another man could lead to trouble if you ask me. Do you fear you would hold back with him there and not want to hurt his feelings if you enjoy sex with the other man more? Just trying to understand. Why not compromise and do the threesome? It sounds like you are really into exploring these sexual adventures and a threesome the way your husband desires may be a great way to start. After all it sounds like he was a little cooler to the entire thing than you. You could do the threesome thing and maybe you could ask your husband to not participate at the beginning but join in after things get started? My honest advice would be to do the threesome and work on your fantasy later or not at all depending on the vibe you get. I assume you value your relationship and love your husband above all. This type of lifestyle can really harm that so its best to be careful and be sure everyone is comfortable.